Can You Drink of My Cup

"Oh my goodness girl he is FINE", says one woman to her friend. "Damn, she look good", says one man to his boys. Obviously, there is this thing in life called physical attraction. The outer appearance (what our eyes can actually see/prove) is what draws us to a person first. There's nothing wrong with admitting that your mate's "assets" was what drew you near before you knew him/her. It's only natural. But, what happens after we meet that beautiful specimen? What happens after we introduce ourselves? Believe it or not, unless you're just in it to get a little action, the physical becomes a little less important. We begin to want to discover what this person is all about. So many relationships are based on physical appearances. But, if you care to notice, these relationships take a turn for the worse nearly every time. Just because someone is sexy on the outside does not make them just as sexy on the inside. Now, I'm not saying go out and find someone you're not physically attracted to and give them a chance. Like I noted before, there's nothing wrong with your mate's assets being the first thing you noticed. Having a weakness for your girl's booty or being turned on by your man's abs is healthy. But, it's what comes packaged in those gorgeous shells that matters most. When you enter into a relationship, you are telling this person that he/she has the potential to be your husband/wife. Well, at least, I hope that is the intention. A lot of people use relationships as a sport. But, there are things that we should look for when it's time to look beyond the shell. Of course we learn about their likes/dislikes, fears/confidences, highs/lows, etc. But most importantly, you want to know if this person is unselfish, able to compromise, able to communicate (not argumentative), whether or not they feed off of drama (cause that brings stress and stress can shorten the life span), whether or not he/she is trustworthy and most importantly you want to know if he/she can handle who you are as an individual. It's like in Matthew 20:22 (the Bible), when Jesus asked his disciples if they were "...able to drink of the cup that I shall drink of..." Just take a minute to ask yourself and then ask your mate can he/she really drink from the same cup? Can they handle being with you and the type of person you truly are? Can they handle life with you when you are up just as well as when you're down? Can they stay strong when finances are at its lowest just as well as when its at an all time high? Can they support your dreams? Can they forget about their needs from time to time and pay attention to yours? Can they stand with you when the world is against you? Can they still hold you and tell you they love you even when you've made a mistake? Can You Drink of My Cup? Relationships can be hard but once understood that if you argue, fuss, fight, cheat, lie before you even say "I Do" eight times out of ten after the ceremony, things won't change. Sometimes we fall for people and it doesn't work. But look at it as a learning experience and move on. Perhaps, God has just been preparing you for the "One" who is to come, if he/she isn't with you right now. Believe that you deserve someone who won't bring you harm, stress, sadness, and who can take you as your are. Everyone can improve over time, but make sure you are loved for who you are now and not who he/she is expecting you to be. "Can You Drink of My Cup?" Here's Hoping for the Best! Luv, MeLi