Blessed Assurance

There's a Gospel song entitled "Blessed Assurance". The first few words of this song are very powerful. It starts off saying, "blessed assurance, Jesus is mine". Now let's look at the meaning of these two words. Blessed means worthy of worship; holy. But blessed also means bringing happiness or pleasure. Now, turning our attention to assurance, we find out that it means freedom from doubt; having self-confidence. So, this song is basically saying that we can be happy, have freedom from doubt, experience pleasure and have self-confidence in knowing that Jesus belongs to us. Doesn't that sound wonderful? I mean who wouldn't want to have all these marvelous feelings all at the same time about someone special? So why is it then that it is so hard for us to have blessed assurance in our relationships? I feel that the reason may lay in the fact that we humans are always doing one of two things: Disappointing or being Disappointed. In my past, I have had a few relationships that I thought were for sure the "real deal". With each one, I started off with blessed assurance. Long story short, I was disappointed and am no longer with any of these guys. As they continued to have blessed assurance in me, I was lied to, cheated on, cursed out, insulted, held against my will and yet all the while, they had assurance that I wouldn't bring them the same harm. We should all be so lucky as to have blessed assurance in our relationships. After someone has been hurt and disappointed repeatedly, how do you get them to experience happiness in having freedom from doubt? Truth is, you can't!!! There is absolutely nothing you can do about someone who is having a hard time letting go of the negative things that has happened in their past. If anything, all we can do is continue to be there as best we can and keep reassuring him/her that we love them. They have to be ready and willing to let go and let God take control and give them the courage to have blessed assurance in someone again. As we all know, humans are vessels of imperfection. Allowing ourselves to have blessed assurance in one of these specimens is a horrifying thought. But, in order for a relationship to progress and be a success we need assurance to keep us moving forward. It's like when you're exercising and you feel like giving up but then you think about how it benefits your health and your physical appearance so you give yourself a pep talk and you complete the workout. That's what assurance does for a relationship. Just when it gets rough and you feel like giving up, a little romantic gesture or quick pep talk ("baby, I love you so much", "honey no one makes me feel like you", "I don't want anyone else but you", or "I need you") can get your man/woman confident enough to keep on holding on with you. I must say though, not everyone is worthy of your blessed assurance. Hence the reason why we have break ups and heartache. It is wise to be picky and choose who to put your freedom from doubt and confidence in. Men and women alike can crush your spirits. But, when you find someone who may be worth you opening your heart to (and that means someone who can drink of your cup, not just an attractive someone) then give blessed assurance a try. If someone claims to love you, they'll do what is necessary to make you happy so that you may rest easy because you are free from doubt in your relationship (and vice versa). Life's about chances. There are no guarantees but, "you will never know love unless you surrender to it". Here's hoping for the best! Luv, MeLi