Like a Sponge

Walking into Sprint one day, I overheard a grandmother fussing at her grandchild. "Didn't I tell you to stop slamming my goddamn car door? If you break my window I swear I'm gonna break your ass with my fuckin' foot." I cringed at the words that were coming out of her mouth, speaking to a child of no more than five years of age. I thought to myself, if this is how the grandmother talks, how must the mother communicate with this child? Why is it that so many people, and I see this more in minorities, cuss out there children? I'm not saying that White people don't do it as well, but I see it more from my experiences, with Blacks and Spanish folks. I mean they're just kids. Kids are naturally curious because they begin learning from the moment they're born, if not sooner. They say a baby knows who to be comfortable with from the voices he/she hears frequently through the womb. The way that children view the world starts from home. If you're racist, your child will most likely be also unless he/she grows up and eventually allows his/her mind to open up to the world. If all they keep seeing you do when you get angry is yell and cuss up a storm, they're going to think that that is the way to act when they get angry themselves. So, the world ends up with yet another out of control child/teen. Also, don't show favoritism. Kids can feel when you favor one child over the other. Treat them all the same. One child shouldn't feel any less cared for than the other. Another example is when the child is always seeing mommy and daddy fight. Mothers, when you talk down to your kids about their fathers (or vice versa) they begin to feel the way you do. Their fathers aren't getting a fair chance to receive love from them because they keep hearing you call their daddy "no good". They may have been "no good" as your man, but it doesn't mean that they're going to be a "no good" father. And men stop calling the mother of your child/children out of her name. Teach your sons to not disrespect women and show your daughters how a man is supposed to treat her. Parents, Be Good Examples!!! Mothers teach your girls to be ladies. Let them know that they don't have to go out of the house half naked to get a man. Half the time they'll attract the wrong one that way anyhow. Men teach your sons to leave the good girls alone if all he wants is sex from them. There would be a little less hurt in the long run. So, all I'm trying to say is that if you smoke, drink, do drugs, have sex with different people every week, disrespect your husband/wife, yell and cuss every time something goes wrong,etc. in front of your kids they are going to grow up acting the way they've seen you act. When parents act like they don't have any sense, it forces the child to go into two directions: 1) the child is forced to grow up too fast or 2) he/she falls right into the cycle. Some may be lucky and realize early on that they don't want to be anything like you. But, wouldn't that hurt to hear your child say that? I mean , to want to be NOTHING like you at all? I don't know about you but, it would hurt me. Don't talk to them like they're 30 when they're only 3. Teach them love, respect, kindness, compassion, etc. not bitterness, anger, whores, and thugs. And of course we know, that we can teach them all we know but they still have to lead their own lives, but it's good to know that somewhere in their minds are the things you taught them. A better future starts with our kids. "Train up a child in the way that he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it" -Proverbs 22:6 >>Here's hoping for the best! LuV, MeLi