Don't Do Her Any Favors!

I don't care if a woman is a virgin, took care of you when no one else would, ill, on her death bed, pregnant, and so forth and so on. Don't start a relationship with her if you know you're not ready for it. Don't give her the satisfaction of calling you her man if everybody else knows that you're Jane, Tasha, Sally, and Sue's man to. Don't do her any favors! True enough, some women do things for you just because they think that you're going to stick around, and yes sticking around may seem like the right thing to do. But, if you know that you're not going to be faithful and that your heart isn't going to be in it, don't do her any favors! If you get a female pregnant, yes, the right thing to do would be to MARRY her. But, if you know you're not ready for marriage and your lives are going to be miserable, Don't Do Her Any Favors! See, it seems like men often times fail to realize that, just like they can leave.....so can we. Staying with you is a choice. Many women choose to stay with a man who is doing them wrong because they are "in love". But, no matter how much in love she thinks she is, by that point I'd say that she's in denial. I've been through it and I know I was in denial. You can't truly love someone who is being terrible to you. You can have love for them, but "in love" suddenly becomes a joke. Women have a tendency to think with our emotions and we think we love someone who is terrible to us, because we don't want anyone else or we're thinking of how great it used to be. It may have started off great. But, by the time he stops calling, stops answering your calls, starts being caught with other women,etc. a female is now at the point where she just doesn't want to give up. The love is fading and it's turning into a game of "How Long Can I Stay?" Suddenly, it is now a competition. The relationship has become a battle that women do not want to lose. They don't want to have to say that they put up with the mess for so long and for nothing. It also becomes a challenge against the other women. Jealousy rears its ugly head. A game of "He's my man, not yours!" Trust and believe ladies, if your man is cheating, then he's not your man. Men tend to put a woman through hell just because he can, just because you let him. They know that women tend to be more sensitive and most likely to stay and forgive their bullsh*t. I know that most men keep a girl around because deep down he doesn't want another man to have her. So, he wants his cake but he wants to eat it to. SELFISH!!!! Bottom line is, if you're not going to be a real man to your woman......DON'T DO HER ANY FAVORS!!! Let her be free to find a man who will. And the same goes for some women. If you just like to go out and be flirty and see how much attention you can get from men, don't have a boyfriend. DON'T DO HIM ANY FAVORS!!! He will be better of without you. Men, she will be better off without you. But, in some cases there are relationships that start off as favors and it works. But, those are rare. I know for a fact that this cycle will continue. I just wanted to say what was on my mind. Through most of my relationships, I have told the dude to let me know if he's lost interest so that I wouldn't have to go through cheating and distrust and he wouldn't have to go through lying and guilt. Of course, they didn't do as I requested because they wanted the "wifey" type at home and not give another man a chance at a woman so great. So, they cheated anyway with the mind set that I wasn't going anywhere. Don't Do Me Any Favors!!! Now, in some cases mistakes are made and all is forgiven with the intent on making it right. But, I'm just talking about the people who do favor after favor either to benefit themselves or to shut their partner up. I say again, "Don't Do Him/Her Any Favors!" If you're in a relationship, make sure you actually want to be in it and you're not doing it to please your woman/man. Here's Hoping for the Best! LuV, MeLi