Do me a favor. Put your hands over your eyes blocking out all of the light around you. But, leave enough room in between your hands and eyes so that you're not pressing your eyelids down. Then, close your eyes really tight and count to ten. After you have finished counting, open your eyes but keep your hands covering them. Complete darkness. Can you imagine living life this way? Being able to open your eyes as wide as they can get but not seeing a thing? That is what it feels like for the blind and here is where I explain my title. Obscure is a synonym for blind, just as confidence is another word for trust. I have always felt such sorrow in my heart for the blind. I believe this is because of my mother's friend. She wasn't born blind. A surgery gone wrong caused her to lose her sight. But, growing up I noticed how much she trusted the family and friends around her to take care of her. She had confidence (trust) in them that they wouldn't steer her wrong. And if she didn't have confidence in someone, I'm sure she wouldn't allow them to guide her. I truly admire couples where there is a blind spouse or where both persons are blind. There has to be a level of trust established as soon as possible. They cannot choose a mate solely on the physical for obvious reasons. They rely on the sound of your voice, the scent of your body, the touch of your hand, and the feel of your spirit (your inner being). Your character is extremely important in a relationship with the blind. He/she needs to be sure that they can put obscure confidence in you. So, I wonder why we who are blessed with sight have such a hard time looking past the physical and into a person's spirit. It's a blessing to be able to see our partners and enjoy their physical appearances but when does that no longer matter? When does the inner beauty outshine the outter? Unfortunately, there are many individuals who's beautiful faces do not match their spirits within. It would be nice if people who have sight also had the ability to have blind trust. Looking past your man/woman's physical beauty, do you see a spirit that you connect with? Can you put your confidence in them and have faith that they won't steer you wrong? If you are brave enough to start a relationship with someone, you are saying to them in so many words that you are putting confidence in him/her. You should be able to say that he/she will take care of you and your heart. But, if you don't have full confidence, you should at least have the will and determination to get there. Otherwise ask yourself, "Why am I with this person?" In relationships, we must look past the physical and really get to know the person inside. Is this person someone you can put obscure confidence in? I know that trust is difficult for most of us these days. I mean, with all the women who would sleep with a married man and all of the men who swear they can do better than the current guy, a lot of people have been hurt one way or another. But life goes on and time brings about a change. I am not saying to ignore your wisdom. We all know that we learn from our mistakes. We just have to trust that we've learned a lesson and that we are ready to pass the next test. If you're with someone or thinking about being with someone, figure out whether or not they are worth testing your new found knowledge on. If you've learned something at all, then you should know what you want/need from your woman/man as well as what kind of relationship you both desire to be in. Again, I know that it is difficult to trust someone. Your heart is on the line here. And there's no pain like heartbreak because there's no medicine to take it away. We can't pop an aspirin in our mouth and all of sudden feel better. But, if God sees fit to put someone in your life who fits the prototype, pray that everything goes alright and try a little obscure confidence. Here's Hoping for the Best! LuV, MeLi
